Match.com

Following a divorce and a couple of other failed relationships, one learns what is acceptable and what is not in one’s life. For this reason it was very difficult to stop running my MHL (Must Have List) in my mind every time I met someone. Therefore, I decided to look for tools to help me. My father kept telling me that online dating is the best way to find someone with the criteria I wanted. I wasn’t really convinced, but I decided to open an account in Match.com. It felt awkward filling out the questions, and the lists, and writing about me and what I’m looking for on a partner. I created a simple and short profile. I just wanted to take the first step of enrolling. It took me a couple of days before I could officially enrolled and submitted may payment. I gave myself three months to try it. It already was mid December, so I had until Mid March to test it.

I Surrendered Myself

After several years of singleness, I decided it was enough. I kept waiting for Mr. Right to arrive at my door, but he never did. Now I know why… First, I kept looking at men with a "must have" list in my mind. And of course, those that did not fit the criteria were automatically dismissed. No exceptions. What was I thinking? Why was I taking this so seriously? Second, why was I waiting for him to arrive at my door? Why couldn’t I go out and look for him? He was out there, somewhere… and I knew I would find him when the time was right. In the meantime, I realized that I needed to enjoy my friends and family. I had so many good things to celebrate and many people to celebrate with. I was (and still am) incredibly lucky!